Keeping Your Family Strong--Even Through Divorce

2 Ways You Can Handle Child Custody And Support Discussion

by Kristen Wright

If you are getting divorced and you have children, you are probably trying to work with your former spouse to figure out who has custody of your kids as well as things like child support and which parent is going to pay for particular things. There are different ways that you can figure all that information out. 


One thing you can do is to go to a mediator. With a mediator, you both lay out what you want to have happen, what your particular wants and needs are, and what your ideal resolution is. The mediator will also ask each of you what your worst possible solution would be. The mediator will take all that information in, as well as financial information and anything else they may have asked for and will make a decision. It will be a compromise, which means that no one will be 100% happy, but everyone is going to get something that works for them. In some places, mediation is legally binding. If you are worried about where to find a mediator, your divorce attorney probably has some that they can recommend. The attorney may even have a mediator who works in-house. 


Another way to get all the custody issues figured out is to let your attorney handle all of the negotiations. If you and your former spouse aren't on good terms or there is some kind of protective order keeping you two separated, then letting your attorney talk to their attorney is actually a really good way to do it. You can tell your attorney what you want, your former spouse will tell their attorney what they want, and then the attorneys can start coming up with different plans that they will then bring back to you and your former spouse to approve or amend. One benefit of having your attorney do all the negotiation for you is that they aren't emotionally invested in the situation. They can look at everything in a much clearer way and can handle the negotiations without all the weight of the past on them. 

Child custody, child support, and other financial issues are always difficult. It can be really hard for you to deal with the negotiations and discussions that go into hammering out an agreement that will work. However, there are ways that you can make the discussions go much easier for you and get everything set u so that it works for you. To learn more, contact a law firm like Madison Law Firm PLLC